Exploring the Seasons Moment By Moment

I have a relationship, we all have them, where it is extremely broken.  We used to be really good friends, but due to differences and events that happened, someone who I used to speak with often is as foreign to me as words spoken in German.  I don’t understand them anymore and the language they speak to is so distant from what I believe that they too want very little to do with me.  The line of communication was being disconnected.

Because of these differences being so severe, friends and mentors were encouraging me to distance myself from that person and not talk with them.  For months now, I have struggled with this.  Just whenever I would stop communicating with them, something would happened, and before I knew it, we were talking or I was sending some form of communcation.  Their response was that out of love we must distance ourselves because of the differences being so great.  I have been thinking about that for awhile.

Last night I concluded, I can not do this.  I can not ignore this person or act like they don’t exist.  Whenever I want to call them and get their insight into a matter, I should be able to do.  Whenever I want to text a message of encouragement, I should be able to do so.   The answer to love shouldn’t be disconnect from each other.  The answer to love should be to overcome any differences and hurt, and fight for relationship.

I am finished not talking the person.  I am finished with getting upset about the situation because I am exhausted from it all.  I will probably always talk to this person and that is just fact.  I don’t know how close we will be, I guess that is up to them, but the end result is avoiding and cutting the person out of my life was too much work.

If die tomorrow, I won’t be remembered for being the nicest person or the most trustworthy or honest. I am not any of those really. But for someone to be able to say, “He always reached his hands out to me with love” – yes, that is what I think Christ would smile at because you can never show the love of Christ by withdrawing yourself from people.  Love and disconnected relationships don’t equate, ever.

May you find peace with those who you are struggling to be in relationship with.  The answer is not avoidance or kicking someone out of your life.  The answer is finding love in the midst of the craziness (which means you don’t always listen to them about certain topics, but you do talk with them).  May you seek God’s presence in another person and recongize that as you treat them, you treat Christ.  May you reconnect all strings to a relationship and spend the rest of your life trying to make them stronger.